Michael Cardenas

While long phone conversations and video dates on the best adult webcams are fine and dandy in the world of romantic relationships, you’ll eventually want to get sexual. Sexting enters the picture now. However, not everyone is naturally gifted with the ability to turn someone on with just a few messaged words. Finding the appropriate words during sexting can be difficult and awkward.

Begin With Consent

When we discussed the subject last year, the general view was that you should obtain permission before sending someone a naked message in their DMs. This need not be a formal agreement that resembles a legally binding contract.

• • Do you feel like having some nasty talk?

• Do you want to attempt sexting to take things to the next level?
• Could we try it over text? I love it when you talk dirty to me.
• Are you now turned on? If you want to talk more, feel free.

Maintain a casual atmosphere, but before sending explicit messages or photographs, always be sure the recipient is interested in engaging in sexual activity.

Keep It Simple

You don’t need to be very poetic, we assure you. Sometimes keeping things simple is best, especially when feeling a little unsure. Tell your partner what you would like to do with them, such as how you would like to touch their body or how you would like them to touch themselves. You can ask them to follow suit as well. As an alternative, describe how you’re harming yourself, how your body is reacting, and what you want they could do if they were there with you.

If your partner is open to it, you may also try exploring some long-held dreams together. Just make sure they’re comfortable with the idea. In the end, don’t be hesitant to express your needs, wants, and desires. Leave your inhibitions at the door because this is a private encounter for the two of you to enjoy. Start with “I want” to indicate what you want. What are your plans? If you were together right now, what would you do?

Don’t Force It

This relates to keeping things simple, but you don’t have to use certain sex-related terminology or tones if you have a full-body cringe when you hear them (pussy, for instance, which many people find repulsive).

Don’t force yourself to adopt a snide persona if it feels utterly alien to you. Also, don’t stress about spelling or grammar; it’s not important, and if your partner is going to criticize your use of words, they don’t deserve the pleasure of a good sext. Express yourself in a way that feels thrilling and sensual to you. Establish terminology you and your S/O like to use when becoming intimate if you don’t feel comfortable using more explicit language. Like any intimate act, sexting functions best when there is open and expressive communication.

You don’t have to participate in this whole sexting thing if it’s making you feel anxious or dreadful. Anyone with whom you are sexting ought to want you to enjoy the activity as well and ought not to treat you with disdain or discomfort. Without stressing about whether you’re doing sexting “correctly,” try to relax into the experience and have fun.